Grant Tolley is Sally's New BFF!!!!!!

I'm very passionate about my football........for those of you who didn't know! And I often read the sports section in two of the tangible papers that my big metro-opilis (word?) has access to.......that being the SW Times Record and the Arkansas Democrat Gazette. But I was never so moved......and I mean MOVED when I read Mr. Tolley's Commentary last Wednesday about a little controversy going on in the Arkansas River Valley and 3-A Division, High School Football Playoffs!!!!!! It made the "Earth, Move....under my Feet!" I got down right giddy as I read and read this article!
Lamar Vs. AAA: Who Wins, Who Loses? (click on this link to get the full read-this IS some good stuff!!!!) It don't get better than this when it comes to nailin' the those big ASS whiners out there that always are think'n that they are bigger, better and above all, holier than thou when it comes to the rule books of ANY sport!!!!!! I loved it........my heart went pitter, patter with every prose he wrote and I salivated on "It's about time the little guy won something against the monolithic evil of administrative red tape!" and "Paris officials didn't like it and they sure griped about it, but they didn't get a slick country lawyer and file a grievance." and the ULTIMATE BIG OHHHHH!- "Maybe Paris should get a lawyer to file an injunction to force the Paris-Lamar game to be played over again?"
Mr. Tolley: I'm in awe of you........"you lit up my life" for just a brief second in this world of non-policy driven people that don't want to play by the rules and "everyone is a winner" kind of bull. I guess I'm old school or something, but I can remember when there was a rule in school or on the playing field; you went by it and you didn't have this scream'n parent or scream'n coach making a spectacle of themselves out there and setting the standard for the kids watch'n them. All the while, that kid's think'n "he's my hero!!!!" Well, now......unfortunately, we have to deal with all these little kids that have now grown into adults that, for some ungodly reason, felt they got the raw end of the deal back in the 70's or the 80's! And it sounds to me like they have all moved to Lamar!!!!!

****JUST SO WE'RE CLEAR.....I'm old enough to remember when Lamar didn't even know what a FOOTBALL WAS!!!!!!! ALL THEY KNEW HOW TO DO WAS BOUNCE A BASKETBALL, and I admit, they were pretty scrappy back in the day!!!!! Wouldn't it be sad if their sports program had to take a step back in time to the OLD DAYS!????!! I'm just sayin'...................Peace Out!!!!!!

And at the end of the day......or even the week.....why not let Dr. Seuss Speak!

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter.......and those who matter.......don't mind!"

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."

"Anyone can give up, its the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength!"

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.........."

My mother read me Dr. Seuss books all of my childhood and I still have them to this day........she sure is a smart lady and my hat goes off to that fine Dr. Seuss!.................Peace Out!!!!!

Get'n My Twain on Today.........with a Lil' Fergie..........

"Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great!" ................Mark Twain

Fergie (Stacy Ferguson) I guess showed us at 11 way back in 1986 what she could do then on "Kids Inc."..........


and look at er' now..........you go girl!

Death Penalty for Vance-alot of burried secrets......

Yesterday, the jury of six men and six women convicted Anne Pressley's murderer, Lavelle Vance, guilty of all counts on capital murder. The picture of Patti Cannady weeping on the front page of the ADG is haunting.......it makes me sad and glad for her at the same time. But there are things that don't add up in my sick little brain when I read some of the testimonies that tell of what happen to poor Anne in those minutes of trauma.......as described by Dr. Stephen Erickson, the states deputy chief medical examiner, "Pressley was struck at least a dozen times, several times in the face, with each blow splitting her skin. He said she suffered five skull fractures." First of all.......why would a burglar take the time to disfigure someone so? Why would a "stranger", as Prosecutor Johnson put it, want to take the time to take Anne's beautiful face away and not her belongings.........I don't get that? Did he really hate her that much and have that much ill-will towards her for fighting back? Supposedly this was a random burglary.........or maybe he was stalking her-but still, why would you take a blunt object to someone that is beautiful unless.....unless........you're jealous? Bitter? Rejected? Scorned? There are a lot of emotions I could think of for tearing off someones face just because I am a woman and could be really vicious and vindictive at times.......but why? Why do this? Why break in to a woman's house to burglarize and rape and then beat her beautiful face beyond recognition? Don't make sense to me.........You kill Vance and all the secrets will be buried......sounds like a good plan. Whose getting justice in this case? Yes, I think he played a part and Yes, I think he is getting his........however, I think there is more to it than is being told and that may ever be told..........As for Patti Cannady, I'm sure if you were to ask her what her feelings are 5 years down the road, or even 20 years after Vance has been fried and long and gone, she'll have the same response that Patricia's mother has said every time........."Why didn't you just take me instead? She had her whole life ahead of her and you took it away! Why didn't you just take me.........." Peace Out............Bless the families of brutally murdered victims.

Anne Pressley 8/28/1982-10/25/2008

Patricia Elsken 3/12/1964-4/11/1988

Anne Pressly: Closing Arguments Today @ 9:30a.m. cst

Well.....don't know if it's a good week or a bad week, for Patti Cannady.........The trial started for her daughter's accused murderer last week and Ms. Cannady took the stand the first day of testimony. I posted this picture of Anne because I thought it looked so natural of her......fresh faced.....free spirited.......As I read today's description of yesterday's proceedings, it makes my heart go out to her family that sat through it all......sat there and had to hear the poignant details of every minute--piece by piece of evidence that was stripped from the scene of the crime and basically stripped from their daughters dignity......it was hard for me to even read them; let alone, a mother sitting there in a court room having to listen to the blow by blow accounts of how her daughter fought desperately for her life; but in all reality, they have to know that she will always be the true, fun loving spirit that she was and always will be......forever in our memory! I know this woman too well and I've never met her in my life! I know her mother too well and I've never met her in my life! Not a day goes by that we don't think of Patricia.........the accounts are eerily similar..........yet there is never a day...........I just hope that this is the justice that the Cannady's are deserved of.......maybe I'm a little skepticle; however, I think there is more to this story than meets the eye..........Peace Out!

Quote of the Day!!!!!!

Everyone who's ever taken a shower has an idea. It's the person who gets out of the shower, dries off and does something about it who makes a difference- Nolan Bushnell

and now......a little video from Michael Buble.......if he would just meet me....all would be well in the world!

Yelling at living things does tend to kill the spirit in them. Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts......

The quote in my title is from Robert Fulghum and is taken from a book a friend was telling me about that she was reading. Her therapist thought it would be helpful during her 'healing process' due to what she and every other woman on the face of this earth (and maybe, just maybe......even men; I CAN be unbiased!) and that would be the victim of verbal abuse during a relationship. The title of the book is The Verbally Abusive Relationship-How to recognize it and how to respond...By Patricia Evans. My friend has found this book very benificial and is working hard to regain her inner strength and finding 'herself' again. I can see the change in her and it's like finding that old friend that you had for years that suddenly turned into this person you didn't even know. She left us for awhile........she was distant and made things look pretty on the outside......she made things look pretty for herself........she made things look pretty for her family.......she even made things look pretty in her own mind to the point that she actually believed that this was a life that was o.k. to live. However, we as yaya's....know better when one of our sisters are NOT QUITE what they should be.......However, as she told me, you get to a point where you just can't play the part anymore and you decide that enough is enough......but then she struggled with when and how to get out without getting harmed and, of course.....there were children. It is a very sad story.....but true! And I'm sure we all know someone that is going through this as I write this.....but the defining part of this story is that NO ONE ACTUALLY KNOWS what goes on behind closed doors unless you are actually there. That 'gentle giant' of a man and the 'fun guy' is all well trained and honed into to his craft and is very deceiving to the naked eye.....but not to her. And eventually.....she see's the light. And there is a light......and it is called STRENGTH! INNER-STRENGTH!!! She has to dig her way out and find it.......if willing.....no matter how old she is.......or she sits there and basically dies inside and dwindles into little, if not nothing......And that-is what he (the abuser) wants to achieve!!!!!

So with that-----I raise my glass of cheap ass wine (it's been a shopping week and that's all I could afford) and I toast the ones that actually go towards the light of STRENGTH!!!

I'm gonna quote from the book and I hope I don't get in trouble for this!!! Please Patricia Evans, i've linked your site twice now.......I'm promoting your book for all that need it!

If you agree with 2 or more of the statements that follow, the book of Patricia Evans will support you in recognizing verbal abuse. If you have not had these experiences, the book will support your empathetic understanding of those who have.

1. 
   
   He seems irritated or angry with you several times a week or more although you hadn't meant to upset him. You are suprised each time. (He says he's not mad when you ask him what he's mad about, or he tells you in some way that it's your fault.)


2. 
   
   When you feel hurt and try to discuss your upset feelings with him, you don't feel as if the issue has been fully resolved, so you don't feel happy and relieved, nor do you have a feeling that you've 'kissed and made up". (He says, "You're just trying to start an agrument?" or in some other way expresses his refusal to discuss the situation.)


3. 
   
   You frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses because you can't get him to understand your intentions


4. 
   
   You are upset not so much about concrete issues-how much time to spend with each other, where to go on vaction, etc.-as about the communication in the relationship; what he thinks you said and what you heard him say.


5. 
   
   You sometimes wonder, "What's wrong with me? I shouldn't feel so bad!"


6. 
   
   He rarely, if ever, seems to want to share his thoughts or plans with you.


7. 
   
   He seems to take the opposite view from you on alomost everthing you mention, and his view is not qualified by "I think" or "I believe" or "I feel"-as if your view were wrong and he was right.


8. 
   
   You sometimes wonder if he perceives you as a seperate person.


9. 
   
   You can't recall saying to him, "Cut it out? or, "StopIt!"


10. 
    
    He is either angry or had "no idea of what you're talking about" when you try to discuss an issue with him.

Please visit Ms. Evans site if you are in a situation like this........she has other helpful books that will help you to find you way back to you and truly enjoy life again............Peace Out!