Death Penalty for Vance-alot of burried secrets......

Yesterday, the jury of six men and six women convicted Anne Pressley's murderer, Lavelle Vance, guilty of all counts on capital murder. The picture of Patti Cannady weeping on the front page of the ADG is haunting.......it makes me sad and glad for her at the same time. But there are things that don't add up in my sick little brain when I read some of the testimonies that tell of what happen to poor Anne in those minutes of trauma.......as described by Dr. Stephen Erickson, the states deputy chief medical examiner, "Pressley was struck at least a dozen times, several times in the face, with each blow splitting her skin. He said she suffered five skull fractures." First of all.......why would a burglar take the time to disfigure someone so? Why would a "stranger", as Prosecutor Johnson put it, want to take the time to take Anne's beautiful face away and not her belongings.........I don't get that? Did he really hate her that much and have that much ill-will towards her for fighting back? Supposedly this was a random burglary.........or maybe he was stalking her-but still, why would you take a blunt object to someone that is beautiful unless.....unless........you're jealous? Bitter? Rejected? Scorned? There are a lot of emotions I could think of for tearing off someones face just because I am a woman and could be really vicious and vindictive at times.......but why? Why do this? Why break in to a woman's house to burglarize and rape and then beat her beautiful face beyond recognition? Don't make sense to me.........You kill Vance and all the secrets will be buried......sounds like a good plan. Whose getting justice in this case? Yes, I think he played a part and Yes, I think he is getting his........however, I think there is more to it than is being told and that may ever be told..........As for Patti Cannady, I'm sure if you were to ask her what her feelings are 5 years down the road, or even 20 years after Vance has been fried and long and gone, she'll have the same response that Patricia's mother has said every time........."Why didn't you just take me instead? She had her whole life ahead of her and you took it away! Why didn't you just take me.........." Peace Out............Bless the families of brutally murdered victims.

Anne Pressley 8/28/1982-10/25/2008

Patricia Elsken 3/12/1964-4/11/1988

Anne Pressly: Closing Arguments Today @ 9:30a.m. cst

Well.....don't know if it's a good week or a bad week, for Patti Cannady.........The trial started for her daughter's accused murderer last week and Ms. Cannady took the stand the first day of testimony. I posted this picture of Anne because I thought it looked so natural of her......fresh faced.....free spirited.......As I read today's description of yesterday's proceedings, it makes my heart go out to her family that sat through it all......sat there and had to hear the poignant details of every minute--piece by piece of evidence that was stripped from the scene of the crime and basically stripped from their daughters dignity......it was hard for me to even read them; let alone, a mother sitting there in a court room having to listen to the blow by blow accounts of how her daughter fought desperately for her life; but in all reality, they have to know that she will always be the true, fun loving spirit that she was and always will be......forever in our memory! I know this woman too well and I've never met her in my life! I know her mother too well and I've never met her in my life! Not a day goes by that we don't think of Patricia.........the accounts are eerily similar..........yet there is never a day...........I just hope that this is the justice that the Cannady's are deserved of.......maybe I'm a little skepticle; however, I think there is more to this story than meets the eye..........Peace Out!

Quote of the Day!!!!!!

Everyone who's ever taken a shower has an idea. It's the person who gets out of the shower, dries off and does something about it who makes a difference- Nolan Bushnell

and now......a little video from Michael Buble.......if he would just meet me....all would be well in the world!

Yelling at living things does tend to kill the spirit in them. Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts......

The quote in my title is from Robert Fulghum and is taken from a book a friend was telling me about that she was reading. Her therapist thought it would be helpful during her 'healing process' due to what she and every other woman on the face of this earth (and maybe, just maybe......even men; I CAN be unbiased!) and that would be the victim of verbal abuse during a relationship. The title of the book is The Verbally Abusive Relationship-How to recognize it and how to respond...By Patricia Evans. My friend has found this book very benificial and is working hard to regain her inner strength and finding 'herself' again. I can see the change in her and it's like finding that old friend that you had for years that suddenly turned into this person you didn't even know. She left us for awhile........she was distant and made things look pretty on the outside......she made things look pretty for herself........she made things look pretty for her family.......she even made things look pretty in her own mind to the point that she actually believed that this was a life that was o.k. to live. However, we as yaya's....know better when one of our sisters are NOT QUITE what they should be.......However, as she told me, you get to a point where you just can't play the part anymore and you decide that enough is enough......but then she struggled with when and how to get out without getting harmed and, of course.....there were children. It is a very sad story.....but true! And I'm sure we all know someone that is going through this as I write this.....but the defining part of this story is that NO ONE ACTUALLY KNOWS what goes on behind closed doors unless you are actually there. That 'gentle giant' of a man and the 'fun guy' is all well trained and honed into to his craft and is very deceiving to the naked eye.....but not to her. And eventually.....she see's the light. And there is a light......and it is called STRENGTH! INNER-STRENGTH!!! She has to dig her way out and find it.......if willing.....no matter how old she is.......or she sits there and basically dies inside and dwindles into little, if not nothing......And that-is what he (the abuser) wants to achieve!!!!!

So with that-----I raise my glass of cheap ass wine (it's been a shopping week and that's all I could afford) and I toast the ones that actually go towards the light of STRENGTH!!!

I'm gonna quote from the book and I hope I don't get in trouble for this!!! Please Patricia Evans, i've linked your site twice now.......I'm promoting your book for all that need it!

If you agree with 2 or more of the statements that follow, the book of Patricia Evans will support you in recognizing verbal abuse. If you have not had these experiences, the book will support your empathetic understanding of those who have.

1. 
   
   He seems irritated or angry with you several times a week or more although you hadn't meant to upset him. You are suprised each time. (He says he's not mad when you ask him what he's mad about, or he tells you in some way that it's your fault.)


2. 
   
   When you feel hurt and try to discuss your upset feelings with him, you don't feel as if the issue has been fully resolved, so you don't feel happy and relieved, nor do you have a feeling that you've 'kissed and made up". (He says, "You're just trying to start an agrument?" or in some other way expresses his refusal to discuss the situation.)


3. 
   
   You frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses because you can't get him to understand your intentions


4. 
   
   You are upset not so much about concrete issues-how much time to spend with each other, where to go on vaction, etc.-as about the communication in the relationship; what he thinks you said and what you heard him say.


5. 
   
   You sometimes wonder, "What's wrong with me? I shouldn't feel so bad!"


6. 
   
   He rarely, if ever, seems to want to share his thoughts or plans with you.


7. 
   
   He seems to take the opposite view from you on alomost everthing you mention, and his view is not qualified by "I think" or "I believe" or "I feel"-as if your view were wrong and he was right.


8. 
   
   You sometimes wonder if he perceives you as a seperate person.


9. 
   
   You can't recall saying to him, "Cut it out? or, "StopIt!"


10. 
    
    He is either angry or had "no idea of what you're talking about" when you try to discuss an issue with him.

Please visit Ms. Evans site if you are in a situation like this........she has other helpful books that will help you to find you way back to you and truly enjoy life again............Peace Out!

IT'S MY BIRTHDAY.......AND I'LL TELL IT IF I WANT TO!!!!!

You know......as I sit here on my 47th Birthday....yeah 47!!!! and reflect on what and why and where I've been and what I've seen and I've what I've done......I'm thinkin' that it could have been worse......it could have been better.......but in all honesty, the only thing I know today is that the TRUTH will set you free. It's true that I'm 47 years young today and it's true that I'm STILL GET'N IT DONE!!!!!!! But the best thing about today is that I know that for once in my life I'm not lieing to NO ONE.......Not even myself!!! Best Birthday Gift Ever!!!!! My therapist....yes my therapist (doesn't everyone have one????) tells me that truth is the beginning of the healing and I truly think this educated female knows what she's talking about!! Women are funny about hiding behind a mask at times in their lives and they often put on a poker face for this reason or that.....whether it's for show-hiding an abusive relationship-keeping up with the Jones'-or just down right pride-but let me tell ya! It's not healthy for the psyche, that's for sure, because you find yourself lost in a world you don't even know and you don't even recognize yourself in the mirror after a few years! But this morning.........I knew..........I looked ME straight in the eye and I actually LIKED WHAT I SAW!!!! And I don't think I've EVER thought that.......wrote it.....or said it out loud in my ENTIRE life!!!! So this is BIG for me.......MAJOR!!!!! I'm healing........the truth shall set you free.......and free I am.......and the good thing about it is I'm still a hot cougar still get'n it done and damn proud of it!!!!!!!! (This video ain't NO cougar, but it's a sweet little pussy cat singing to ME!!!!)

Anne Pressley: Vance....he's guilty of something.....

I've blogged about this before, and before, and before, the last 'before' being especially close to home...........I read in the Arkansas Democrat the other day about how Curtis Lavelle Vance told his story of his interrogations and the 'way it all went down' when he was apprehended. The details send chills up my spine and the pain comes back just like it was yesterday.......October 20th, 2008 when she was attacked, only to succumb to the beating five days later. Old wounds are now having to come back in to the lives of her loved ones; yet, they never go away.......because you see, no matter what they do to this guy or what they do to WHOEVER was involved (I'll get to that in a minute), the thought of your baby girl or best bud being brutally beaten, stabbed and raped to the point of her unrecognizable beauty being ripped from her face will never leave the thoughts of her family or us! As for Vance's quotes in the paper that day and his accounts of the way things happened are scary, to say the least. Not that he has an IQ way below the charts or anything, but then who are we to believe?????------->>>> The Prosecution or the Defendants side and their panel of professionals that will come in.....analyze.....pick him apart......all the while, describing in detail what happened to Anne in total, sick detail......it disgusts me! But at least they have one part of the equation-Vance.......I'm not saying that he may or may have not acted alone; however, this guy is pretty stupid.......I don't get it how he did this alone.......but then again, Sally is a conspiracists!!! Everybody's out to get Everybody!!!! RIGHT???? I'M GONNA PRAY, PRAY, PRAY.........because this is very hard for this family and I pray to GOD that the truth......ALL OF THE TRUTH.......comes out................That's all I can stand to say today.......I could go on but it would just piss me off more!!!!!! Peace out!!!!! Pray for Anne's FAMILY!!!!!!( I found some posts on my friend Patricia that I went back and read and you can read them too, if you wish here and here.)

EXTORTION!!! SMORTION!!!!!! DAVID.....WHO CARES???

And as far as it being "far worse if he were a politician or preacher", I say "POOHY"!!! Hello.....???? Slick Willy Clinton!!!!!! I luv ya David....I think it may be time for you to retire though; but other than that, I think you're great and you should a called me if you was needing some attention......Bill O'Reilly knows the drill! (check out that post for details by clicking on the link)!!!! Peace Out!!!!

I'm sharing this from Virg's Blog: Thank You Virg! Luv me Some Will Ferrell!

Protect Insurance Companies PSA from Will Ferrell

BREAKING NEWS!!!! SH*T SNIFFING DOGS FIND FECES BURGLAR!!!!!

STUART, FLA. ......This is soooooooo bazarre!!! I mean, this was the funniest thing I've read in a long time and I just had to share..........O.K.....You got this guy....>>>>>>yeah....this bright and shining star here in the lovely mug shot here to the right........21 year old Robert Stark Higgins! Mr. Higgins was STARK NAKED and covered in FECES jumping into the neighbors pool Saturday Night!!!! I hate to even broach the pun, but this IS SOME FUNNY SHIT!!!!! But we have to analyze the situation and find out just why Mr. Stark Naked Higgins (that's what I'm gonna call him) covered in Sh*t found himself slamming through his neighbors screen to his pool. Mr. Naked Higgins is 21......he was drunk.......he was covered in sh*t........hummmmm.......SOUNDS LIKE A GREAT FREAK'N PARTY TO ME AT HIS HOUSE!!! I WANNA KNOW WHO AND WHAT WAS GOING ON AT HIS HOUSE?????!!!!! I'm sure there were pharmaceuticals involved, LOTS of ALCOHOL and maybe they were doing some of those new wave mud baths- "Little Soldiers Mud Bath" GONE BAD!!!!!!! Anyway..........I just had to share....... Peace Out!!!!!!

It WAS a Harmonic Convergence..............

I was listening to one of those MEDIA biggies or something of another the other day and I heard the discussion about a "Harmonic Convergence"; the Sun, Moon and six out of eight planets being part of the "grand trine", or as I would like to term it........just freak'n poetry in motion. Life being perfect; being in harmony with your inner self and whoever you want to be with or wherever you want to be in this world......... How do you know if you've ever experienced it........the Mayans think that they had it figured out.......but do we? There is probably this one time in your life that you really get happy; is it at the right time or is at the wrong time......another question posed to me; "in all your years of adulthood, how many of those years have you been truly happy?" I shudder to think of the years that I actually admitted out loud........not enough.....but will it be enough.......Again, I read today on the front page of the MSN page about "Happiness Being Overated" with Julia Baird's rendition of her take on the female perception of happiness and how it has evolved from the feminist movement since 1972.....We ARE SOME UNHAPPY BITCHES!!!!! Bluntly put! We've had to conform to what society has expected us to be and and not what we want to be.......In Julia's article she also sites Barbara Ehrenreich's book, Bright-Sided: How Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America, calls positive thinking a "mass delusion." She argues that an unrelenting drive to train our brains to overlook problems and blame ourselves for failures has blinded us to inequality, incompetence, and stupidity. hummmmm.....................................all i know is I've been looking for a long time.......and in a brief instance, I thought I had the power to quit blaming myself for my incompetence and stupidity and stand up for myself.......to let the moons take me into that harmonic convergence and let the planets fall where they may........I was riding my own emotions and feeling good about my strength........ I know I'm strong and I know I'm a good person (even though I like a little Bailey's in my java and a good swisher every now and then.......) but society gets in the way of my life........Give me strength to be a complainer and to get what I want in life no matter what anybody thinks.........I'm tired of conforming....... :) Luv! Peace Out!

Lucky the Turtle........Lucky YOU!

Well, you know it's your LUCKY day when you run across an animal named "Lucky"......it has to only mean one thing!!! Either the animal's been lucky or you're gonna get lucky.....(there I go again, crack'n myself up!!!) Anyway, I thought this was a great story because who would have though to put plastic sliders on a mauled Turtle??? Brilliant!!! I love turtles.....of course, I watch Entourage and I love the character "Turtle" on there because he is coming out of his shell so well (he's the one that dates Jamie Lynn Sigler)and he's got hot little babes slobbering all over him while he's going back to college....I think Jamie's gett'n jealous! Anyway, back to Lucky the Turtle; he got a spot on the Today Show with a Full Segment. You might want to watch it...it's very tender.....(click on the plastic slider link and slip away!) makes you stop and think about things........Makes you want to run out and buy a pair of those "Lucky Jeans"- you know the kind where you undo the zipper and it says "Lucky You" on it??????

Well.......I can't stand abrupt endings.........

I have to say that I'm a little slow posting this.......I've been very busy with social duties and wondering about all the Health Issues that our Coercive Government is offering us.....however, during this time, we must relax and enjoy some of the 'FINER', simpler, relaxing, things in life.....and mine are my wonderful shows that take me from reality.......OR THEY COULD VERY WELL BE MY SUB CONSCIOUS LIFE THAT I REALLY DON'T KNOW I HAVE-MAYBE I'M A VAMPIRE???? NOT A WITCH....OR A SHIFTSHAKER!!! Anyway........and the grand Finale of True Blood was Sunday night.......loved it........but I've got to tell ya, I just get giddy when I hear the Opening Credits Theme Song!!!! All in all......it was a mind blowing experience.....to say the least! Enjoyed it....Can't wait till the next season.....I love me some TRUE BLOOD!!!!!!

Rambling thoughts from Sally.......

Now that I'm back......well, not totally back.....but moving slowly back into this ritual of blogging my feelings upon my sleeve, I have some important topics I must hit on this a.m. before they slip through that infinite whole of forgetfulness that we, as cougars and, as I would like to think.....the more mature, sexual, savvy gender.....sometimes, have a tendency to brush off (not forget).....so I must share:

Gots to start off with my new HomeBoy....Ryan Mallet-little baby QB for the Arkansas Razorbacks......you know, when I heard him first speak on that talk show of the "Voice"...you know......Chuck Barrett's show and I'm listening, drink'n my coffee....I'm hearing this kid with this Michigan accent....I'm think'n "I know that this boy is not a black American (because I had seen pics of him before).......but the kid sounds like Eminem....yeah...Eminem!!!! Rapper....Gansta......Mariah Carey Stalker.....but that's o.k....he's my hero for now....and if you're think'n I'm gonna pull some "Cougar" moves on him or talk some smack about "prey'n" on this 21 year old baby, think again.........really don't have it in me........but I gots me some YAYA's that have some HOT daughters that would love to meet the guy......that is, if he's a good guy and no PLAYA!!!!! My girls ain't no 'SKANKS IN TANKS'.........they are real ladies and don't play games......we've taught them well......So Ryan-if you are need'n a good girl and are tired of all those 'skanks' throwin their trashy selves at ya......give Ms. Sally a hit sometime.........we be fixin' you up RIGHT!!!

• Now I must talk about the inspirational shows that I have been watching while on sabbatical. These shows have been very helpful and instrumental in helping me find my way back to, what I believe in finding.........my true inner self! These shows have been very helpful and full of parallel scenarios for the every day 'Cougar' that has lost her ZEAL for FUN or LIFE........they build your confidence and implore your imagination to the utmost extreme peaks of your very well being and ultimately get you back to YOU!!!!! And you know.......isn't that's what it's all about........being one on one with you???? Your self??? Oh shit.....I went into that other mode....anyway, here is my list in Priority (especially if you are at the bottom and need immediate help!):

1. HBO's HUNG........What can I say.....Season 1 Episode #9 is the best......Richard and Lenore really give me insight.........I can't even begin to describe what this episode did for my moral, as well as my ambition to look at the world in a different light........this is all I can post for this snippet because they removed everything off of YouTube......

2. Showtime's Weeds........self explanatory.....
3. HBO's In Treatment...........again.....self explanatory......
4. Showtime's Californication.........hummmmmm..........that will be a post within itself......
5. HBO's True Blood! Got's to have me some Jason Stackhouse..........and I'm sorry, it's Twilight for ADULTS!!!!!!!!! IT'S GREAT!!!!! Takes me back to when I ride the bus home from Hurie Grade school (I was a latch key kid) and I would go in and watch Barnabas Collins in Dark Shadows!!!! Oh SNAP!!!!! I was only 3 when I was watching that and I was an overachiever; that's why I was all ready in GRADE SCHOOL!!!! Gotta GO!
........................Peace OUT!

It's you and me and BOBBY MCGEEHEE!!!!!!

Check Bobby out at "My thoughts about......" You have no idea what your entrance to the blog world has done: you have brought me out of semi-retirement from the blog world!!! I've been in hiding.....Sally's been confused as of late with all of the world's problems and upheavals! But between you and Virg and even James T., I think I'm gonna make it..........Thank you to all! I'm kick'n back with my Bailey's and Java and enjoy'n my morning Grape Swisher and Life's Good!

Farrah and Michael and ED!

I'm at a loss.......words cannot express! I'm dyeing inside......Farrah Fawcett, Michael Jackson, and yes, OH YES....Ed McMahon (me and Johnny were tight!!!); I can't even begin to describe the melancholy I feel at this time! I can't even talk about it; let's just let the song speak for itself for the loss of them all; however, they will always stay beautiful, young spirited and full of wit as if it were yesterday Ed was saying "Heeerrrrrrrrrrre's Johnny!"